I found a note buried in my phone.
7 months old. Titled:
Things I Am Not Tolerating.
I’d forgotten it existed.
But reading it back? I realised just how far I’ve moved my boundaries to stop tolerating bullshit.
And it’s given me back 12+ hours a week.
Because here’s the truth nobody wants to admit:
Most people obsess over their to-do list.
But productivity isn’t to be found in “more hacks.”
It’s slaughtering the illusions that eat your time.
It’s your Not Tolerating List.
Most people are still hostages to being polite …
→ Hostages to “quick calls.”
→ Hostages to Slack channels that are cemeteries of wasted energy.
→ Hostages to coffee dates with people you don’t even like.
→ Hostages to mornings hijacked by dopamine scrolls before you drink water.
→ Hostages to punishing yourself for mistakes that already happened.
By cutting it all of it out and you get your life back.
The most jagged + feral business hack alive is in reclaiming 10+ hours a week.
Ten hours haemorrhaging into the abyss of “shoulds.”
The habits that were stealing my focus, my shadow-drains:
→ Waiting for the “perfect time” to act - there's no right time.
→ Giving away 60-min sessions worth the same as my $3K program - it was my over obsession with over-delivery.
→ Hoarding flowers that were already dead - they're dead!
→ Building endless backup plans “just in case - a plan B keeps you non-committed
→ Checking apps like a rat pressing levers - it keeps you doomsday scrolling.
And the shifts that rewired everything:
→ Napping in the middle of the day without guilt.
→ Dropping shame for actually enjoying what I enjoy - shame free.
→ Building offline as much as online - because real human energy expands me more than analytics ever will.
Your nervous system is a bank.
Every “yes” is a withdrawal.
Every leak of energy is debt.
When I review this list, I realise:
I haven’t just given myself time back.
I’m operating from the million-dollar energy I committed to.
The truth?
I don’t even want a million.
I just love making choices from that frequency.
You are your most valuable asset.
And you’re probably bankrupting it
on things that will never matter.
We live in a world designed to strip your attention and money.
Divide. Conquer. Distract.
Your defense?
Reviewing your Not Tolerating List.
Protecting what actually matters.
PS: If you’re not intentionally deciding what you won’t put up with,
you’re unconsciously choosing to build from survival mode.
The hardest part?
Sticking to it when someone invades your boundaries
and asks for “just 5 minutes.”
What are you holding back on in the name of being NICE?
I’m Ingrid, and I believe that the real magic in business isn’t about following cookie-cutter strategies, using trendy tools, or hustling yourself to burnout.
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